Previously, I discussed the common term “moderation” in relation to food and health. A tremendous deterrent with people wanting to lose weight is the common and dysfunctional attitude of dichotomous thinking. Also known as “all-or-nothing” and “black or white” thinking, this is when someone is only able to see the extremes of a situation, and is unable to see the “gray areas” or complexities of the situation. For example, a person who engages in dichotomous thinking may believe that if they don’t stay on their rigid diet then they have failed and are off the diet. You believe a piece of bread is bad and once you have that bread, even a little, you believe that you are therefore bad.
If you put food in groups like good and bad you are setting yourself up for the guilty feeling afterwards. You are striving to be “good” by eating the “good” foods and avoiding the “bad.” Since no one can be perfect, you will eventually slip up, feel bad and you’ll want to punish youself. It becomeas a vicious cyle. Instead, focus on any food in moderation. By doing so you can avoid the ups and downs or guilt when you want to eat, and you can banish negative views of certain foods. Can you imagine how liberating it would be to no longer feel the unnecessary guilt and to finally accept living in a healthy, moderate way? (And lose a few pounds, too!)
P.S. Whenever I see those black and white cookies, I think of this topic and the importance of how things should NOT be black or white, all or nothing, on a diet or off a diet. Every aspect of your life should be seen more like a spectrum. The next time you see these let it remind you, too…even if you take a few bites!
Erica Mehler
Your Fitness Specialist